Application: College-age people. Go to the next step when current topic starts lacking new material. (I believe the order of this wouldn't always apply to the elderly and younger children. With middle -aged people I think it might be similar, but maybe future not being as high up on the list.)
- The basics - Age, where you're from, what food you like; Icebreakers.
- The past - How life has gone in recent or distant past; A background.
- The future - What is life going to look like next summer, next year.
- The daily - How yesterday or last weekend went, how your day is going.
- The mutual past - Reminiscing on memories together, inside jokes.
An update on my daily:
Last weekend I got to go snowboarding for the first time in two years. It was just the best and I was completely exhausted afterward. I really felt like I was 'getting away,' which I desperately needed - I haven't felt that in so long. New requirement for wife: she must snowboard with me.
An update on my future:
As of now, I'm seriously considering moving to Boise and working at a library. Boise because Kurtis and his friend Alex are planning on getting an apartment there. Library because I think it would be really cool to put books away all day. All that sorting and finding, not to mention the countless book covers you'd be exposed to - it would totally broaden your horizons of what people are reading.
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Questions to think about: Where do hopes, dreams, fears, longings & secrets fit into the verbal intimacy "line up"? And in a conversation, there is an element of "data gathering" -- ya know, asking questions to demonstrate your interest in the other person, which ultimately deepens the relationship. Where would that fit? How about faith issues? And politics? Confrontations? Food for thought... Mom
All i could think of when you said sorting and putting books away all day was Gram sorting at camp. "Sorting after lunch" I bet that put a smile on your face. Pray for me i have alot on my mind and alot going on in regards of thinking about starting a relationship. Read my blog and you will see what I mean. Sounds like you are having fun and have some fun plans lined up in the future. Well i am heading up to Seattle tonight to hang out with Panda, my sister and some other cool people.
Spring break Forklift, Spring break and ride the elk into the moonset. ok i am done.
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Mom, I feel like all of these things can fit under each of these broader categories. I wanted to be as vague as I could with each so they would allow a lot to fit in under them.
Although secrets, etc is a good one, I'm not really sure. It depends on the person I guess - I've shared secrets very early in a relationship before which completely boosted the process. I guess this isn't normal, though. I don't know where that would fit, really...
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